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No one is right and no one is wrong
As an adjunct to my article called "Radical Forgiveness", I felt to add another vital root to the forgiveness tree: it is the realisation that in all our interactions with people, where two parties might disagree, "no one is right and no one is wrong". In my truth, it's much more than just a solution to forgiveness, it's also a priceless catalytic tool for evolutionary growth because it has the potential to grow "positive feedback loops". So what do I mean by this and how can it help?...

Evolution is all about relationships
It's often considered in spiritual circles that the key to rapid evolutionary growth is meditation and other spiritual practices: yoga, tai chi, the healing arts etc etc. But to me, whilst meditation and other practices can help really shine the light inwardly, we still have to do something about the inner darkness we find. And to me at least, there's no more insightful way of seeing our darkness and dealing with it than in our relationships. It is is here where our darkness is truly revealed, and here, where there is the greatest potential for rapid evolutionary growth.

It's our karma that draws us together and 'manifests' exactly the right people we need in our lives to uncover the hidden gems of beingness. Karma is the blue-print for our incarnation setting the agenda of our evolution/learning experience, and NO ONE would be incarnated at all unless they had something to learn, unless the diamond of inner light needed some more polishing.

So if we want to follow our destined pathway in life and evolve rapidly, it would serve us well to heed what's truly going on in our relationships. So when we are engaged with another and there is disharmony, disagreement or even distress, I've found it pays to take full personal responsibility. Oh sure, they will have their 'stuff' in it too, and if we are a facilitator/lightworker, then it may be our role to help them see their stuff as well as figuring out our own.

Being the Lightworker
But sometimes, speaking from direct personal experience, there comes with the 'lightworker role' the risk that we might pay too much attention to "where they are going wrong" and not enough to where we are. I know I've transgressed this boundary enough times myself in the past!

Even when another person seems to be very entrenched in what we truly know in our hearts is an illusionary reality, there's still the strong possibility that we too are not seeing things as clearly as we might, otherwise we wouldn't have drawn that situation to us.

So how might we deal with the situation where another seems entrenched in their viewpoint and is unwilling to see a higher truth? How is it that we might even be causing their entrenchment?

Standing in our Truth
I have a strong Ray 1 (warrior) energy. What's more, I know the spiritual importance of "standing in ones truth". Practically everyone talks about this in spiritual circles don't they? It's frequently one of the first realisations we make in learning to walk the spiritual path.

But I also feel that this truth is often much misunderstood. "Standing in one's truth" can actually erect barriers within people rather than break them down if we're not careful enough. It does not mean reading reality as we see it and then refusing to compromise over that. To me "standing in our truth" actually means...

    "coming from our highest expression of beingness,
    and allowing that to be infinitely adaptable
    with the fluidity of the moment"

So each engagement with people will invite different aspects of our Soul Ray Harmonic (see Seven Rays of Divine Impulse) to shine through and we'll be invited to allow those to quickly and spontaneously adapt as the situation demands. Sometimes we might feel to be purposeful and strong, at other times more surrendered, sometimes adherent to what we feel is right, sometimes diplomatic and willing to adapt a point of view.

But let me be absolutely clear, by allowing this infinite fluidity of our truth, I am not showing the green light to wishy washyness, to procrastination or to weakness. It's about observing what we're truly feeling to be inside, and then finding a truthful vehicle of expression for that. So to me, it pays to allow space for our truth to be continually evolving directly within our engagements with people.

Being the diplomat: building positive feedback loops
"Being the diplomat" is actually a characteristic part of the soul - it's what we call the "Ray 4": resolving absolute authentic reality. Especially where someone else might appearing to be intransigent, there's a powerful tool of diplomacy we can apply in unblocking the floodgates. It's what I call "building a positive feedback loop".

Even if it seems that agreement is well beyond reach, it is vital to realise that all distortion initially comes from truth. That it is essentially, originally, inspired by the soul and ultimately the soul is all about expressing in an harmonious, co-creative reality. So one powerful key to dealing with intransigence is...

    To recognise the original light within what the other person is presenting.
    To see the truth at the core of what they're saying even if, in our opinion,
    it has become quite distorted

If we can quickly recognise the hidden light within what we perceive to be their distortion and then acknowledge vocally to them our recognition of that truth, it can give our engagement something positive to agree on. In so doing, agreement begins to build a positive feedback loop. This tends to break down barriers and open people up to find right resolution of the issue. It helps channel higher light into the engagement and can often break apart the original distortion that they, and we, were expressing.

Standing in our truth of beingness
So perhaps you might now be more ready to accept that no one is right and no one is wrong? Especially not to keep making someone else wrong because this only erects barriers to the truth, it piles more distortion on top of the truth. And of course our purpose as lightworkers is to help reveal the light in others not block it.

Perhaps then, in "standing in our truth of beingness", instead of being party to conflict, we can look for the hidden truth within another's distortion and give energy to that truth, so that we may create positive feedback loops?

I think if we do this, we'll find it's a very powerful way to co-create with people, to master the art of diplomacy, and rapidly accelerate our spiritual evolution in the process.

In love light and positive feedback loops!

Open

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someone's picture

Hi everybody,
I have a question Smile

"If we can quickly recognise the hidden light within what we perceive to be their distortion and then acknowledge vocally to them our recognition of that truth, it can give our engagement something positive to agree on. In so doing, agreement begins to build a positive feedback loop. "

I find it a little confusing. If what's happening outside is projected by my consciousness, then it's all about me. Many times - I change, the reality also changes.

So, according to the citation it's ok to take into consideration 'others', I mean is it not all about my distortions?

Note: many times when I tell my husband you and you...something... Later I see I have this something myself.

Therefore, I decided that each time I want to blame someone in something, I should look very carefully at myself, and usually I do find it in myself.

So I'm confused now... Please, clarify

Open's picture

Hi Yulia,

Yes indeed, an interesting paradox and great question. We create everything that happens outside of ourselves and yet we're also co-creating. When we delve deeper and deeper into life's situations just as you are now doing, then slowly but surely, the universe reveals the most exquisite, perfection of design.

For example, I can engage with my eleven year old whose going through all kinds of challenges with becoming a teenager. His behaviour can often seem erratic, sometimes aggressive, pretty blinkered and wanting only to accept his point of view.

To the contrary, I feel totally open, accepting, non-judgmental and consiliatory, yet I do confront the issues with him that arise. Sometimes I feel "how on earth can I get through to him when he seems so closed and stubborn". And yet every time, synchronicity invites me to go deeper and find something new within myself.

I find that if I acknowledge the truth in his distortion, no matter how distorted, then I notice that small spark of connection at the soul level. In acknowledging and giving attention to this spark, a doorway is opened and he begins to listen to the other possibility.

But here's the real point: although I see his distortions, I'm accessing a new facet of my own beingness and expressing that. In so doing, I notice it begins to break down the resistance in him. But I want to be clear about this...

    my self serving purpose is to be selfless!
    in finding this new aspect of beingness
    I serve those outside of me and in so doing,
    I serve myself!

To me this is the absolute perfection of the divine design and the more I taste it, the more exquisite the flavour becomes.

someone's picture

After I read this article and wrote my question...

Later in the evening I was trying to talk to my husband (I'll call him Dani from now on, you know, he has name Biggrin )... and to understand what you are talking about.

But it ended as usually - frustration, because it seems we speak different languages, as if we're from different planets, and we are trying to understand and communicate, but it goes like:

Mambubaba babadooo...What?!!...and so on...

The I came home, late, and read your answer, and suddenly..I GOT IT!!! Biggrin

Now I'll see how it works, you know, after all I'm kind of scientist and theory doesn't satisfy me Wink

Thank you, big big thanks

Yulia

jam123's picture

Thanks for another inspiring article. I have been in some awful working relationships whereby colleagues appeared to be trying to scapegoat me,bully me, and try to get me fired. It was just awful the back stabbing, competition, and the dog-eat-dog environment. I became so disillusioned. This life experience kept repeating itself in other jobs too and I sank into a deep depression. I did not understand why and I got involved in the duality(right and wrongs) of it all.

I now understand that the experience kept repeating itself because I had not discovered what you term "beingness". I think of it as humility, mindfulness, presence, non judgment, so many ways to describe the same thing!

I found this lesson for me to discover beingness was incredibly painful. I am glad I found it and realized how integral beingness is to life. If only I knew then what I know now!

I love what you say about beingness when interacting with other and a positive feedback loop. Often I get no acknowledgement of my presence/beingness when I choose to give myself to others. I have a knowingness that as we are all multidimensional beings, this feedback loop does really occur and your energy of presence always gets rewarded and comes full circle in an infinite variety of seemingly miraculous ways.

From a narrow perspective related to the previous work I have done, giving your presence is like an investment which comes back to you with its value appreciated always.

Kind regards

Open's picture

Hi James - I'm glad that the article inspired - your words created a lovely feedback loop Smile

I'm not surprised you'd become disillusioned in such a 'dog-eat-dog' environment, with all that back-stabbing.

In my new book out shortly (Divinicus), I relate this energy to an ancient and alien 'raptor consciousness' which found its way to this planet eons ago and then skewed the natural evolutionary path - except to say, all protagonists involved needed the 'dog-eat-dog' environment that it created in order to learn, evolve and grow through collective karma - including Gaia.

So how can we evolve this raptor consciousness?

We must try to see the positive within it and express that instead. So competition in itself can be a good thing if it inspires excellence - consider the eagle - a highly evolved 'raptor' - and a superlative example of evolution. Yet it still lives at the expense of other life. So there's positive and negative (from a higher evolved perspective). The competition has created the most formidable form; yet also it's limitation - for it depends on the weakness of others in order to thrive.

Is then the attacker strong?

I've studied the martial arts over countless lifetimes. Within the team I work with, we have a saying: "any attack comes from a position of weakness" - because the attack is needy. And conversely, even when you are consumed by your 'enemy', it still doesn't make you weak. In actual fact, quite the reverse.

So how can we change this raptor consciousness without fighting?

By 'sparring' truth with it: bringing it to the shocking edge of its own reality, then to show it a 'better' way - a more highly evolved way.

We engage, we challenge, we soften, we give. In short, we allow the 'beast' into the intimate parts of our beingness, whereupon, we demonstrate that to surrender to the natural harmony of the universe is the greatest strength of all.

Open Ok

Find out more here on healing the raptor consciousness... Healing the 'Wounded Dragon'

jam123's picture

That's a great analogy about the raptor!

"Sparring Truth" truth sounds to me like staying in your "Beingness".

"to be or not to be, that is the question" like Shakespeare once said springs to my mind.

So Beingness guards against ongoing control, criticism and manipulation by a partner, parent or employer, lending the power to resist without becoming angry or upset, changing the balance of power(creating a positive feedback loop)?

Kind regards

James