Hi Eduardo - firstly let me say I feel for you, because it's clearly a difficult and deeply challenging process. However, it is not one that is at all unusual. In fact I'd say there are probably thousands or millions of relationships in that kind of polar dynamic. When someone is being heavily in the victim, yes, it can be that you always end up being the "oppressor", no matter what you do. And it does sound like a dynamic where your partner is highly empathic and easily takes on other energies. You often find that entities play in the dynamic so as to limit both partners and keep them locked in mutual co-dependency. It's a tricky situation which, speaking from experience, you'll have to work hard to resolve. That said, with courage and commitment, it can most certainly be resolved.

Where anyone is suicidal, it can be that they actually are, or else the depression draws supportive attention, which is what they might really be craving. Or else there might well be karma of some kind of abuse, where the victim has taken on self blame and feels ashamed. What's really tough for the supportive partner is to realise that when they hold the space for it too much, the risk is only to perpetuate the cycles. And if you're too hard, it can remove any lifeline. Essentially the partner needs to sit in the discomfort and pain of what they're feeling until it ceases to identify. But many will resist this, or get angry and emotional and then project the energy and the blame onto the other. This then stops them equalising and thereby unravelling their karma. It's a vicious circle.

First it is necessary to recognise if this is the kind of trap you find yourself in? If so, it takes commitment and persistance to break the cycles.

One realisation is essential where someone is genuinely suicidal: it is they that has to come to the realisation that life is worth living. You cannot do it for them. They have to find the meaning. You might help by asking questions about what they find meaningful in life? But this has to follow them sitting in the pain and normalising in it.

As hard as it may seem, and as counterproductive, actually I would say creating more space between you will be important - less co-dependency, for only then can the other start to explore their own sovereignty and strength of soul. For example, if you always go out for a walk together or socialise together then this can be highly limiting - especially to the person in the victim mode. If they always feel the supportive energy of the partner, it prevents them learning to stand on their own two feet - especially emotionally.

Be aware that entites could be playing emotional cycles between you and her. Where are you attached? What outcome can you not accept? Work to unravel from the loops and cycles of repetitive behaviours that bind YOU in - this is YOUR journey just as much as it is hers.

Where someone is highly empathic, although the cause of any problems will most likely be an unrealised soul aspect (karma), it will deplete various aspects of the body too, such as the adrenal glands. So working to heal adrenal burnout will also be important. If there are neurological complications, explore the herbal remedy root. There's always usually a solution.

There with you.

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