As always I find synchronicities and knowings activating from the articles. Just last night while doing some silent toning (thank you for showing me this is effective too) with an app I'd found (I'm not sure but I think it tones at a lower octave than OH toning; wondering if this makes a difference or maybe that's just where I'm at?) and when at the third chakra I was thinking how the mind can be such a prison, but then corrected myself that it can also be a valuable tool. But I still don't know exactly how so I ask "How?" and here's the answer :)

An interplay between my sister and I has been occurring over the last couple months in that she has lost her apartment somehow and had to enter a shelter. My first (conditioned) instinct was to help her and take care of her and I've regretted this as now I feel she is latching on and expecting me to help her through. I see now the truth in needing to let our loved ones walk their own path and learn the lessons they create. In a way I feel like it's my penance for all the times I leaned on my friend or other sister when I had created my own difficult circumstances. But I see now that doesnt mean I should carry her through her own journey. She won't grow her wings that way. Last night she did (in my mind) a typical manipulation tactic to ellicit sympathy and probably money from me and I just ignored it. But I was torn; should I be helping her in some way at least? Is ignoring her and cutting her off really the best way? Reading this article this morning at the part about wanting to serve when aligning with 5D energy I knew what to do. She had said basically that things were hopeless which I felt was a manipulation, so knowing there could be backlash or rejection and not wanting to cause more pain, I told her what I wanted to say which was esentially that if you think its hopeless it is and taking responsibility for what you co-create, and it felt right. Im not responsible for how she takes it but it felt like exactly the right thing to say. And I've established that I will support, but with truth, not handouts that ease suffering but bypass important lessons. And I also recognize that my desire to help her with material things and help her avoid suffering is a selfish act in that I want to avoid my own discomfort in feeling worry and suffering through her. Im seeing it now as an opportunity to furhter explore when the things I feel are my own or not, and how not to attach to them. Sitting with the discomfort and exploring it rather than finding an instant cure. So helping her bypass her suffering is not only doing her a diservice but myself as well. I feel at ease now with this situation, regardless of what happens.

In terms of manifesting, it's been a long-standing habit of mine to fantasize about the life I want and I've been working on extracting from that and learning acceptance in the moment and "focussing on the path while noticing the boulders without attachment" and that subtle shift in energy at the very least takes me out of "neediness" mode and more into gratitude and openness to the magic that is always there in every moment. Like the wonderful sunrises and early mornings I get to experience with my east-facing windows. Not to mention the ample opportunities for working the spiritual muscles in situations like learning how to stay calm and understand my negative reactions when neighbors make excessive noise for example.

So much thanks again for the important and relevant guidance. Can't express enough how grateful i am for this work and to know there's somewhere I belong. Best and brightest blessings to you! 💙🙏 barb