This is a tough one for me. i've been thinking of ways to approach a person who is harassing me b/c i won't comply with her demands. Perhaps i made her feel bad by rejecting her asi find it very difficult to be around needy, attention seeking alcoholics. Has something to do with my mother. Clearly i'm there to heal the mother wound, but i feel that i shouldn't have to give her anything if i don't want to. i guess this made her feel bad so understandably she's attempting to regain her power/control by trying to bully and control me. A lesson in how to treat people more respectfully. i've thought of how i could tell her as kindly as possible that i dont owe her anything and that offers of help (people pleasing) early in the relationship have been rescinded due to personal health problems and the fact i simply dont want to have to do things for people if i don't feel to. Mostly it's because she expects and demands it and i simply wont be forced. i very much feel speaking to her will change nothing and probably make it worse because to be honest would mean calling her out and she does not appear to be the type, based on her actions, to accept any criticisms, no matter how gently they're delivered. i don't feel that she cares about my needs and feels entitled to take whatever she wants. So how can i do anything but continue to respectfully keep my boundaries and simply let her be? She's offended though that i don't interact with her except when she brings up some concern. She's like a child having a tantrum because i won't pay attention to her. This has energy vampire and narcissist written all over it. i truly believe the only way to deal with these is to not engage at all. It feels as though she's always trying to pick a fight because even negative attention is better than none. i can u nderstand that she has anxiety etc but i'm not responsible for caring for her, period. And i won't be bullied into it either. So in this case, can communication work? If i believed she'd see reason and understand my side, i would tell her my concerns. But so far she's used everuthing she knows about me, specifically the things that bother me, against me. There are so many lessons to learn here so i'm starting to see it as a blessing to show me my own distortions because i used to be very hard and unfair with people. Learning to be patient and calm when she's purposely stomping and dropping things on the floor right above my head. Learning to control my anger and stay neutral without reacting are other lessons i need to learn. i really feel after all this time that in this case, communicating will be useless and even harmful. i'm attempting now to at least stop projecting my anger and feelings of powerlessness onto her, but beyond that i feel this is something that can't be fixed, just endured and learned from. I would appreciate anyone's thoughts and insights, thank you!💙