I had a couple of realisations recently about it, via retrospection of the past and observation in the present. People feel uncomfortable with being helped or helping. This whole topic of disempowerment is like "wow, chill". I put summary ahead. It is enough to get the point. After that I extend.

Summary: Everybody, CHILL hhh

It is okay to need help and it is okay to help, and it is okay to do it in any way, all ways, different ways, even it it looks bizarre or inappropriate to us.

Saying that somebody else is healing is one extreme. Saying that we can do it on our own is another extreme. It's a two-way highway and it is a totally mutual thing (two people playing some kind of thing out to learn or have an experience from it).

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Extension:

Let's take a totally extreme situation. Sometimes people lift people on their shoulders and carry them for a while, like when picking people after accidents. Totally, it's a resque. And? Why not? Go visit hospitals, especially with people in disassociation. They can grow too. They can learn they can walk, despite their deep belief. And they wouldn't realise it without external help. Or if somebody is stuck in a swamp, he will need a horse or a person to pull him out of this sticky, sucking thing. He NEEDS help. And it is okay. We do need stuff, okay? hh It is okay to need help/reflection/view, etc. It is not disempowering. It is one of the keys to evolution and connection, to realise what we need when we need it and look/ask for it. What would we do without each other?

This spooky "disempowerment" - so scary to feel needing something, so we have this "I will do it alone" and "it is me MEEE who did it. I SELF-realise!!!! It's all MEEE! and if anybody tries to get close and help it's like "you're disempowering my MEEE!!!" And then we have aware of the phenomenon healers who try to calm everybody down by "I am not healing you, I am helping you heal yourself" LOL

But hey, those who want to grow, as a conscious choice and commitment, will usually look for reflections, for assistance from outside, someone or something (people, healers, therapists, friends, books, teachers, gurus, music, nature, animals, objects, imagination) to communicate with and learn from, and it is better be something relevant to the current process and be able to point at stuff we wouldn't see/experience on our own. I, personally, hold a massive degree of humbleness about this whole "doing it alone", and "self"-realisation thing. C'mon. Nobody does it alone, and sometimes we really need to get squeezed by external forces to let go. We don't just "aaah, so nice, I am letting go" hhh We are all sort of healers and facilitators, when we interact, just by communication. We make each other do things we never knew we could or would.

Facilitation or healing, specifically, is just one of the forms of interaction/communication that assist this realisation. Just like with any other forms, there is a reason why we ask for it and there is a choice where we take it and what we do with it. We need something specific. And there is this guidance that takes us to different people, communities, and healers too, who focus on specific things that we need on our path.

That's my shot :)

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