http://www.openhandweb.org/healthy_hugging_boundaries

I found this article on the site and it answered my question. Other areas that have been the topics of self-reflection and discussion on here have related to a sense of enmeshment and dependency in a relationship that has been furthered by weak boundaries on my part supported by false ideas about separation and unity. Recently both my house and car lost power on the same day and I have been repeatedly given the opportunity to feel the experience of disintegrating when I allow an anything goes receptivity. Developing healthy boundaries and tuning into what I feel versus what I think I should do or what I think someone would have me do or what a spiritual practice seems to say I should be like will be an ongoing development...I see it now...and I am sure there will be plenty of times to express in alignment with authentic feeling!