Thank you Open and Ben. Yesterday's conversation with my Cougar hunter has really stirred things up for me. I spent many hours in contemplation wondering why this person breezed into my life for 10 minutes - what was I to look at? In the 'conversation' I sat silently, holding space, really FEELING my judgement. Open you nailed it with feelings of repugnance and anger (after the shock wore off) - first at him for what he does, and eventually with myself for not doing or saying something. I felt I was letting down the side somehow, by not giving him SOMETHING to think about to change things for the animals - the big cats that are his prey, as well as the cows (he had just come from McDonalds - and had a stomach ache... a little poetic justice there :).
My greatest hope is that this person never crosses my doorstep again - which, of course, means that he will at some point. When he reappears, I will be more prepared, more solid in myself, perhaps ready with a question that will make a difference, or as you said, Ben, responding, perhaps with my own truth and maybe change the game in that way.
Much love,
Jan