I was on the other side of this same conundrum for many years trying to find the right woman. I feel your pain!!! I had to stop looking, efforting and just be. Be your true self in everything, whole and complete, alone, single. Only when I was TRULY AWESOMELY OK IN MY SINGULARITY was I "ready" to meet my partner. She just appeared as a gift from the Universe!! POOF just like that!! TOTALLY UNEXPECTED!! When you meet the right man, HE WILL BE EVERYTHING YOU NEED IN A PARTNER BUT NOTHING YOU WOULD EXPECT!!! So Surrender all expectations and desires even in yourself and just be. A woman NEEDS a man like a fish NEEDS a bicycle!! Much Love and Many Blessings to You my Sister!!! Eddie