Finding balance
In reply to The importance of expressing the energy coming through you by Open
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For me it is having enough time (usually in the morning and in the evening) to be alone, sit and just be for a while. And, in general, being alone works for me.
Also connecting to feelings or sensations without discrimination, no matter it is pleasurable or painful, letting it happen, it makes it move much faster.
I kind of let go the need for pleasure. I also remember that pain can be highly addictive as well. Many people hang around addicted to pain and suffering. And, in general, the problem with addictions is that you deal with addiction, get rid of it, only to switch it to something else, unless the source of it was treated. So people stop drinking and start gambling. Stop gambling and become sexoholics. It never ends. This is why for me just dopamine fasting is not enough in this case.
It helps to "know" my addictions - food and instagram - but then I have to get to the origin of the discomfort that makes me turn to dopamine and to find alternative ways to sooth that will release oxytocin. This is the main thing with adrenaline and dopamine withdrawal - switching to an oxytocin alternative rather than starving. Our society forgot how to live on oxytocin. It's effect is subtle, gentle, calming.
So what I do is hug a soft pillow, put some soothing music on, I don't jump from bed in the morning right away, I cuddle with myself, sometimes for an hour, meditate a lot, practice yoga, give myself massage with a foam roller.
