Hi Lenny - it's a great point you raise about detachment and "healing" 👍

To extract from, to detach like "dropping the hot coals" is NOT true healing and neither is it TRUE transcendence. It only leads to an inner denial, which as you've eloquently expressed then leads to some kind of inner frustration or lack of acceptance.

What I'm talking about here, is to dissociate from identification with the situation - meaning to know yourself as that which is beyond. But this is attained by feeling THROUGH the situation, through the energy and being intimately intimate with it.

If you're prepared to be fully intimate in the situation, then you will activate any attachment to some kind of need for an outcome in the situation. Here then presents the chance to unpack, unravel and let go. Does it serve you or them to be so attached?

Then true healing can take place by reclaiming sovereignty in the situation.

Do feel free to come back and delve deeper with me on that.

Well wishes

Open 🙏