"The realisation that it is actually not that much about ‘what I do’ (a job right in the heart of the matrix or a job at the edge of it), but rather about ‘who I am in what I do’"

Your wording just helped, I think this is a good way to be and well explained :)

I did not feel the Openhand approach failed me but rather I failed it...either way with every ones sharings I am realizing to move on and drop this identity while continuing the self awareness :) I am glad to hear of your progress Marye :)