Hi Rich,

My intuition tells me that when you're partner is shouting at you, it's also possibly the distorted divine feminine shouting at the distorted divine masculine - for everything that has been done to the feminine. Sometimes it can really help for someone just to let rip. There's healing in that. But there's two things to watch for...
1. It must be noticeably healing for them - it must lead to a new shift. Or else it risks becoming a repetitive pattern of fixed neural pathways and behaviours. So it's wise to challenge the anger, but go as gently as possible.
2. Watch out for your own consciousness beginning to placate the distortion - adapting distorted behaviourisms perhaps because of fear around what the outcome might be. You can be soft, receptive and empathic (even to the shouting), but to be truly empathic, does not mean to take it on board and hold it - that's sympathetic which is highly distorted and disempowering.

Best

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