How to continue for the next steps?

Hi Rodrigo

I really feel what you are saying. Yes living consciously amongst family who don't have the slightest idea about it can be challenging. Im doing the same and i'm with you. Challenging as it is i also think it can be a good thing. Because it's exactly these challenges that causes us to confront our inner demons and ascend. It would have been a whole lot easier to meditate in the top of a mountain and ascend. But now you wouldn't see yourself in others. The people close to us whether family or friends can show us where we get tight and in need of an outcome. They are showing 'us' the conditioned programming that has been built in 'us' from childhood and its exactly these which limits us. When you start to question these programming and make conscious choices with acceptance and without needing an outcome from any situation then you find that things get easier and you will be much more at ease with them. I used to give spiritual lectures to my mother but it was all an attempt to change her but when i accept myself as im i can accept them as exactly as they are. And i think this is the greatest gift we can give to them. To give you another example i have always considered my mother as the special one amongst others. This is a distortion as it brought forward a lot of conditioned programming that happens between a mother and child like need for attention , validation etc. But if I can sit in my own space without any need for external validation I find that this distortion can change without any effort from me. And it's likely the other peson changes too. I think it's ok to be in the illusion if you can watch yourself in it as often as you can. Then you will see you didn't have to change it at all. I say this because when I see myself in a drama there is a tendency to change it according to what's spiritually correct - to be all peaceful for instance . This is self defeating because it's not so much how the illusion changes but the way i see it. So if i summon the will to observe myself in the drama no matter how distorted it is with persistence then finally I start to make aligned choices.

Best wishes for your unfolding :)

Vimal

Hi Rodrigo,

Greetings and welcome to Openhand - you are welcome here :-)

What you describe in being with a family who don't support you is very common for people in this community. Many people who truly step onto the spiritual path find themselves in environments that don't support their feelings and actions. It's a challenge indeed - but at the end of the day, it's about YOUR spiritual mastery. No one can walk the path for you. No one can do it for you. If your beliefs, feelings and truth are tested by those around you, then I see it as a good thing - because it causes you to question what's really real for you and to work into that.

There has to come a natural commitment to the path, that wells up from inside of you, so that it doesn't matter what others think. The only way to get to this point, is to keep exploring within, keep inquiring. If you slip from the ways that you know best serve you, if you close down and 'go to sleep again', then at the point you catch yourself, ask, "does this kind of living really serve me?". Inquire into that. Keep looking at the situation and asking yourself what really serves.

There will come a point where you realise that living in the illusion serves no one - not you, nor those around you. At this point there comes a commitment to following the ways that you can feel in your heart, no matter what others around you may say.

Wishing you well

Open *OK*