Exploring Why the Need for Validation on the Spiritual Path?
What often keeps people tight in the box and resisting the power of transformation on the spiritual path is the need for external validation of some kind. The requirement for friends or family, for example, to respect the new you you're unfolding into. If they're not evolving as quickly as you, unsupportive or negative feedback can be severely limiting. Where does this need for this validation come from? Most importantly, how can we move beyond it...
Distortions of the Soul
Firstly, it's essential to explore the nature of distortions - old behaviour patterns we wish to either drop or realign. From the Openhand perspective, a distortion is a distorted expression of soul - because everything begins originally in the source of truth. But the soul got attached, within some emotive physical situation, the need to be loved for example, and then got fragmented into it.
You could consider the soul as a stream flowing down a mountain side. It passes over a boulder, which creates an eddy current in the flow. This then draws in debris, which constantly spins around in the eddy current. It's a good metaphor of repetitive and stuck behavioural patterns becoming toxic and restrictive.
The crucial thing to realise, is that the eddy current originally came from truth, and contains truth within it - specifically the inherent nature of the stream. Likewise, the soul getting stuck in distortion. And until you realise and embrace that truth, then the distortion will not simply melt away. At the risk of mixing metaphors, you can't simply throw the baby out with the bathwater. Or, you could try just dropping the hot coals, but if you haven't processed out your reaction to the heat, you're simply going to remanifest similar cycles just with different circumstances. Let's figure out the truth and express it, then work to let go of the attachment within it. In which case, the eddy current will unravel of its own accord. There is no longer anything anchoring it.
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Reflective Feedback Loops of the Soul
Let's explore the example of validation to illuminate what I'm saying.
When the soul expresses its authentic nature, then it's going to shape the environment around it. That's because the Unity Consciousness, by the Law of Attraction, crystallises the quantum field. Reality takes shape around what you're being. This is where reflective signs and synchronicity click in around you - and you get the affirmation of aligned creative action. In fact the soul is watching for these clicking synchronicities as a means of attuning and aligning itself. It's an inherent attenuation mechanism.
And this is exactly where the need for validation distorts from. Yes, it's right to look for the reflective feedback loop. However, if you're needing that from a particular person or group of friends, now you - the ego - are distorting the flow and creating a limiting eddy current around what you're indavertantly needing the flow to be and how you want it to reflect.
The answer is to detach from the need for a specific reflection. Instead, to allow active attention to guide you to the right multidimensional reflections. Whether it be in signs and numerology, the movement of clouds in the heavens or the call of a bird. Everything clicks in when you're in the truth.
How Best to Interpret Signs and Synchronicity
A Parting of the Waves
What we've got to do is break the rigidity in our relationships - that you need a particular person to agree with the path of your calling and how you feel to now be. You're constantly evolving, which can be tremendously threatening to those still stuck in the old rut. They'll want to shoot you down to justify their own limitation. And it's often those closest to you that feel most threatened. It's often the most subtle and quiet judgments that are most limiting - the soft encouragements to stay comfortable on the sofa.
These are the ties you've most got to challenge and break. I'm not saying that all close relationships need to end - I'm saying that essential space must be created within them, so that you can grow and express new aspects of yourself. If those around you don't support or agree, so be it. Either they will come to change in the dynamic with you or there'll need to be a parting of the waves.
How to "Burn the Boats" of an Out-dated Reality Construct...5 Key Steps
Planting your Soul in the right Soil
It's crucial for you to be you. And to fearlessly express that - then to watch for the reflective feedback loops from the Universe. Importantly though, these don't come from where you expect they will. The Universe is always spontaneous - you'll have to apply the freedom of active attention to guide you. Then you'll create the most amazing reflective feedback loops around you. And from these, simply by honouring them, you'll start to weave a more harmonious landscape for yourself. One that's constantly evolving and growing with your soul.
It will plant you in the right soil to enjoy the fruits of your labour!
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The difference between validation & positive feedback loops? 💫
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14/02/2025 Shift Insight - Feedback Loops
I felt to review the article above on, "Why the Need for Validation on the Spiritual Path?" As always, there's truth in every distortion - in this case, the truth is that the soul is watching for reflective feedback loops that help it attune beingness and align with the flow.
So what's the difference between validation and a feedback loop?
Validation is where the being needs upliftment and support in order to be. It's required to justify who they are, and provide some sense of solid foundation. But it's always coming from something external to yourself.
A feedback loop, on the other hand, is a reflection from the Universe in response to a statement you're already making about yourself or an inquiry you're having. It's supporting your commitment to self actualisation.
There's a clear difference: the first is grasping for something external; whereas the latter is celebrating in the joy of participation by the Universe, in whatever form that may appear.
I wish you all plentiful bounteous feedback loops on your journey. And with that in mind, do check my article above today, it expands on my point in more detail... scroll up.
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Reflections.....And a Valentine❤️
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I felt pulled to weigh in on this perspective from my own unfolding experience. For the longest time my sense of agency was external focused. If I did this right or perfect I would get the love that I desired and yearned for internally. I would miraculously feel whole and complete. If I got the perfect job, then I would feel whole and complete. I can continue to share these different manifestations, but I feel you get the point. With my sense of agency externally focused there was this insatiable energy that built up over time. Essentially becoming the dog chasing its own tale. I now realize that this was part of my path to arrive we I feel I am today. Over the years I've been learning how to bring that sense of agency internally, to me it feels like "soul sovereignty", taking my power back one conscious choice and expression at a time.
Something has shifted with this newfound awareness. I can feel my being strengthening with each passing day. Where I used to not share because there was some distortion around sharing and having to get it "right" or to look or be perceived a certain way. I now realize that was my ego wanting to be in the driver's seat and keep me "safe" from some imaginary monster that would get me from speaking my truth. I've learned that I'm the gate keeper to my own authenticity. Many filters needed to dissolve before I've arrived at this place.
To me validation seeking is a program that is running in most of us because of separation consciousness. We are looking to complete that feedback look in an artificial and superficial way. Seeking a happiness that we soon realize is transient. The goal posts are constantly moving when seeking validation from the external. Eventually reaching a point of exhaustion and throwing up one's hands, I don't wish to travel down this road any longer.
As I strengthen inside my being, my confidence and courage grow in parallel. I'm beginning to embody soul more fully. So, when I speak and share it is coming from a place deep within and less from the mind. I'm learning to trust this process and this part of my journey.
Lastly, when I share from this unfiltered and authentic place within, I notice that it spikes things in others awareness. When someone shares something back with me about what I share, I sit with it for a moment. Because at times the ego wants to hijack it and inflate itself. The ego wants to own the experience, I can feel this distortion happening in real time, but not always though. It's a continual space of inquiry for me as I learn to express from this new way of being. I'm free to be who I'm becoming in any given moment. So, when someone shares something with me about what I shared or who I am, I pause and thank them for the reflection. To me these are the feedback loops that you speak of Open. I use them as signpost to keep on going, to continue to follow the path of soul.
A Valentine Writing that I wrote in 2019 and I wanted to share it with everyone here on Valentines Day❤️
Love is a mystery to the human mind.
It is packaged and sold as a commodity.
Being sought after by many to only slip away through our fingers.
Or at least what we thought, what was love to us.
Distorted by all because that's all we saw.
This illusion of love makes us feel good inside only for a moment.
We held onto it as tight as a 3-year-old holds onto its favorite baby.
Attached to this transient feeling inside, hoping for it to never die.
It dies time and time again, and here we all are right back at the starting line under our own two feet.
The mystery of love is a shapeshifter, it's always changing.
How does one keep up with this shapeshifter?
We don't, we pause for a moment and turn inside and ask the question, "what is love to me?".
It is an unconditional energy that weaves together the very fabric of our reality.
It just is, nothing needs to be bought on special days to express something that just is.
Our minds are attached to the many distorted versions of what love is, that has been fed to us from birth.
Coming back to love being a mystery to the mind.
It is time to open our hearts and let the unconditional love of the universe fill us up.
The void inside closes for a fleeting moment, but not a moment lost in time.
A building block to creating what we all know in our hearts, what love truly is.
It is infinite.
It cannot be bought or sold, but it is always available to being shared with a stranger, a child, an animal, a partner, a family member and a friend.
Go inside your heart and feel what love is for you and share it with the whole world with all you got!!
With love, gratitude and hugs,
Chad❤️🙏
great poem
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Thanks for sharsharing Chad. I shared the poem with the 19 year old being that chose me as a birthing vessel. Being you are male makes it more significant. Harmony between the masculine and feminine can be understood.
Michele
Being presence in relation with others
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I’m in a similar exploration to what this article describes. I’m attending a vegan forest festival with a thousand other participants in South India. On the first day, I felt a massive blockage around my head, closing down the higher chakras. These are the inquiries that surfaced with it: seeking validation and support from external sources rather than being comfortable in my own being, and facing insecurities about how I relate to others. I also noticed myself looking for a twin flame reflection in a specific way.
It feels like the vast ocean of the one self has been reduced to an ice cube. This often happens when the crown chakra is blocked due to misaligned focus or intention. I also recognize that these are field-level dynamics, though I’m not yet able to discern which energies are at play.
Through all of this, I’m also witnessing breakthroughs—a new sense of being emerging and a natural connection with my twin flame when I shift my focus and orientation. And needing or expecting nothing but being comfortable in being. What really helps is inquiry and taking time to tune inward while being in nature. I feel the soul’s inquiry here is: how to be the presence in relation to others.
Vimal 🙏
Speaking through
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Hi Open,
I've been reading through your deeply inspiring articles and have just seen your most recent facilitator video online. It just so happens the universe has transpired to send my self on a month long road trip through Europe. And intuition tells me I'm going to be connecting deeply with the land and energies on my travels.
I'm curious about a phenomena and wondered if you would share your thoughts. Sometimes, if there is something on my mind, or going on in life, a seeming response or behaviour will happen through somebody.
Sometimes, the behaviours or being-ness will come through somebody that is personally challenging or controversial in some way. It is so uncanny that I put it down to spiritual entities who've read my mind.
I've cleared a great deal of psychic content, so recently it is less and less malevolent, more magical, more loving. Would you say these are entities operating through unconscious people in my vicinity? Or is it their truth and meaningful to my soul journey too. Thus is the way of mystical matrix we find ourselves in?
Much gratitude
Tim 🙏
When our own guidance mechanism speaks through others
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Hi Tim,
Welcome to Openhand - good to hear from you. 🙏
I'm well aware of what you're speaking of. And assuming the reflects feel uplifting and illuminating of your authentic beingness, then it's likely to be one of a few of things you're experiencing: either your own higher self is reflecting to you through others and through surrounding circumstances, or it's your Twin Flame, or it could be your guides in the ether.
Well wishes
Open 🙏
Streaming consciousness'
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Hello Open,
Thank-you for your reply. The uplifting and illuminating reflects tend to come via my own intuition, less often through others, although it happens. What comes through other people is of a different quality, it could be testing. I overheard a discussion on the work of Helena Blavatsky yesterday, describing the mechanism whereby groups of higher dimensional consciousness' stream through ordinary human consciousness according to physical vibration.
It makes one wonder what content is coming from where!
Is it all coming via the 4D?
Tim
The importance of resonance
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That would depend on where your own consciousness is expanded to. You can't pick something up in 5D for example if you're not expanded into 5D. Although in some ways it could trickle down.
I'd say the most important thing is to be aware of the effect. If it's something that you feel expansive, aligned and activating of your own authenticity, which feels good, then to pay attention to it. But if it's taking away your own sovereign awareness and trust in self, that would be something to be cautious of.
I think we have to be careful where other beings might be streaming through you. It's a case of discernment as to where they're coming from, what their intention might be, and the risk that it overrides your own consciousness.
That's why when I work in this way, I'm only working with beings that understand the importance of resonance - they communicate a resonance, which then activates my own higher dimensional consciousness in me, that I know and feel as mine.
Open 🙏
Spiritual art
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Hi Open,
Absolutely! Thank-you for that. Resonance is key!
Although I especially marvel when loving healing vibrations trickle through the lowest densest of consciousness'. I too have a stable sense of self and sovereignty. Other beings wouldn't be streaming through this bodily vehicle!
Your work is true spiritual art. And a gift to this world.
Namaste
Tim
Morphogenic field
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Hi Open,
On the experience of people speaking to things they don't consciously know of that are prescient in my mind or activities. I started to wonder if it was an attunement to the morphogenic field of their circle. Another observation when I work with families or groups, I notice that when I relate ideas to one or two members of the group, a third member who wasn't present or in that loop will give unconscious feedback to it. This isn't once in a blue moon occurance with particularly sensitive types, this happens all the time. It cultivated my deep respect of the soul of individuals who may be completely oblivious to the spiritual dimensions and yet operate and express its idiosyncrasies. I've gone so far as to tell parents and people who are in the habit of talking about each other behind their backs, that the subject of the conversation is aware of it on a soul level and that I regularly observe the reactions, though unconscious. I spent some time in Catholic circles where discussions were had about similar occurrences during exorcisms, where the individual would relate knowings about the individuals who were performing the exorcisms. This was understood to be demons, and how they operate, so it is still somewhat a mystery to me. And I'm standard cautious with whatever comes out of anybodies mouth including my own! Although, this and other phenomena are the greatest pleasure of my life. First stop on my Openhand inspired conscious energy working, Dunkirk. Oh *%^&*..
Namaste
Tim
Your links are disappearing on the fb page.
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Hi Open,
I think facebook or maybe someone is filtering out your comments and the links to come here to read the new articles. I noticed yesterday and again today the link to the article is not there. It's just empty in the comments section but I mentioned it there. Don't know if my comment has been filtered out either. I had to come here to find the article yesterday, and then again today. Odd.
Sherri
Openhandweb, not fakebook, is the place to be!
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Yes, fakebook is now stripping out our links back to Openhand articles.
I am bewondered why people still use it?
We're only there because of the vast numbers that still, for some inexplicable reason, hang out there. Is the inertia within that dense?
Ho hum. So be it.
Open 🤗
Fastest way for me to get to your articles...
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Hi Open, it's fastest for me to just go to the fakebook site and click the link, takes me right to you. Or on that same fb pg. I can click the sidebar link to you site too instead of taking the long way around and then having to hunt for articles.
It's just faster. Shame that fb is doing that to you.
Anyway, I'm still checking in and finding the articles and posts. 
Sherri
Finding the very latest on Openhandweb
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Hi Sherri - I only ever post a snapshot of things on fb. Everything is available here on Openhandweb.
Everyday anything that is new is listed in the box "What's New" at the top of the page.
Below that are all the latest comment exchanges with people.
Following that are the latest article viewpoints on the shift and then featured articles of philosophy.
If you want ton index the entire article library, simply click on articles in the main menu.
All it needs is a little application!
Bright blessings
Open 💙
Really glad I read this, a…
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Really glad I read this, a final push I needed🤍🙏
Constant yearning for deepening
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It's hard to surrender to the fact someone close to you rather stays comfortable, and has the judgement you are making them uncomfortable. I'm very sensitive to when a dynamic needs to go to a new level and want to shake things up, and it doesn't so much matter to me anymore that that means there are lots of days with discomfort. I don't always go about that in the right way though, I can see that. Within relationships I have to find balance in surrendering to that creative tension, not reacting to it and almost wanting to be ahead of it. There will be opportunities to express new frequencies of being, there seems to be impatience around that. I can see I want external validation for this aspect of me, and try to bring it inside, not to judge myself for always wanting more (or another for not wanting that), a deepening. How can we not always want more (and not in a greedy sense) if we are the very expression of constant evolution and change?
Is it wrong to always be wanting more?
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Dear Hannah, I can reflect back to you with great passion: it is NOT wrong to always be wanting more.
People like us are clearly here to catalyse and shake things up. We're seldom happy with sitting patiently on the sofa. I've learned to accept that in me. It has a purpose, that leads only to unhappiness if it's not expressed - no matter what the external reaction is.
If someone is rendered uncomfortable by your expression, then they've been offered a profound gift to explore why they're reacting? It's not your responsibility whether they pick up the baton or not.
Yes, expressing difficult truths in the moment is always a challenge. It's not at all easy. And it can be very tiring. But when you look back along the path you've travelled, you see just how much you've grown while others have stayed put. The feeling of advancement and growth has come at a price, but been tremendously worthwhile. You've reached another level of being.
If we don't suppress it, the soul is constantly journeying, unwinding, integrating and expressing. Hence the sense of always 'wanting more' - in the sense of wanting more from yourself. To me that's not at all wrong.
So if people want to sit comfortably on the sofa,
or are triggered by your quest for truth,
Let them be!
Open 💙
Me, unapologetically
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Thanks so much for the reflection Open. Yes I realised this too today after many synchronicities. Especially in the closest relationships it's so important to stay open, communicate and fully committed to the truth, as much as possible in the moment something arises. Is that too much for someone who wants to stay on the couch? Totally. So be it. This morning I was still feeling guilt around it, now I see it's a natural way of being I don't have to apologise for. This aspect wants to be respected and nothing less, and doesn't give a f☆ about being rejected for it!
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Burn the sofas!
Quest for validation
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There has been almost immediate reactivity in me, when reading the text. I feel to share resonance with short writing that transpired soon afterwards.
Probably, I'm just looking for some validation
Coming from the light
Journeying all the way from the light, I’ve been seeking to find it in my life.
Does it appear in the form of love? Proverbial sense of ultimate connetion to the beloved...
Might it be hidden in the nature outside? Pristine lands of sheer beauty and intricate forms of life...
Maybe it’s hidden in people or groups? Inflicted in family ties, expanding into awakening souls coming from the stars...
Perhaps light is a lie, mere reflection of this seeking
There seem to be no encouragment deeds from partner in crime, when one’s heart is aching in pain.
Nature is nice, yet authentically harsh. There is no mercy out there.
And people, oh the fabolous paradox of sentient life. It’s so difficult to connect with divine spark, packed in the box of inverted programs.
When there was no light, than nothing appears.
The sense of lacking the love transforms into emptiness that opens the space for authentic connection.
And all of those suffering from sentients in nature; witnessing the alchemical pot of uniqness and diversity calling for balance and harmony. How can all of this actually happen?
I’m the One that seeks to be seen.
Might it be that everyone else is lost, just as I’ve been?
Let us reflect this light together, untill there is nothing else to be found anymore.
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