Megha, thank you for your "two cents", they are worth far more to me than that! You are very self-attuned and honest and I value that highly. I'm learning to be vulnerable and honest even if others throw stones because I'm so so tired of hiding and lies; I want the truth no matter how much it hurts because I'm starting to realize it is indeed the only way to get to the other side; gotta walk through hell to get to heaven etc. My heart goes out to you with your difficult journey. You sound like a HSP (highly sensitive person) like myself. I also hate conflict but sometimes find myself projecting my anger onto the world I guess as a way to "dump" all that low energy onto someone else. I'm working on it😉 I just hope to learn to stop letting that rage and seeming powerlessness control me and learn healthy boundary management. I too bypass, I think because the pain just gets too much sometimes and I haven't yet fully committed to facing and processing; still avoiding too much. Working on it😆 But I see how in doing so i just prolong the pain. I think challenging him is very brave and honouring yourself and your kids, you are strong and courageous! I love how you are feeling more alive with all the realizations and what you're learning with all the hard stuff you're going through. That helps me to see it that way too! And well done with the "dementor"! I forget I have lots of entities attached to me that also affect my thoughts and ability to let go. That actually reminds of an obe I had when I was 16 where there was a malevolent figure in what looked like a, I don't know the word, Middle Eastern covering for women where only the eyes are visible, watching me. Maybe I carried this spirit with me from another life? Definitely something to look into. my own dementor. So much respect and blessings to you for honouring yourself and forging that path of light through the darkness, you are an exemplary! You are not only so brave for jumping into the fire, but for allowing it to transform you and those around you. May I be so brave! I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your sharing and showing me a bit of your soul through your truth and honesty and authenticity. It is a rare thing where I dwell but it's starting to break through of its own accord I think because I just can't tolerate anything less now. I do have lots of work with the old diplomat of ray 4 because of my same aversion to conflict, but if I learn to stay in the fire without running and calmly approach the situation, I may just transcend a thing or two. Thank you for showing I'm not alone and that I can also get to a place where I stand and face the fire instead of hiding and putting it off for another day. Thank you for showing me how to be brave. So much love and respect to you and may you keep ascending on that path of light you've made. Wishing the best outcome for you and your kids❤️❤️❤️🙏barb